-LRB- CNN -RRB- -- First there was friendship . Then there was romance . After that there was marriage .

And now , at what would have been a few weeks from her senior year in college , Christian Minard finds herself expelled from school -- because the person she married is another woman .

In a letter from earlier this month that Minard shared with CNN , an administrator at Southwestern Christian University noted that he 'd been told of Minard 's same-sex marriage and saw pictures of it posted to Facebook .

Such a union is in apparent conflict with the `` lifestyle covenant '' of the university `` that all students must agree and sign , '' he added .

`` As an American and a Christian , I do respect your choice , '' the administrator wrote . '' -LRB- But -RRB- I have to uphold the Lifestyle Covenant at SCU and confront you with our position .

`` Due to this recent event , you will not be able to attend SCU in the future . ''

When asked to confirm that the school -- which describes itself as part of the `` International Pentecostal Holiness '' denomination -- sent the letter and to elaborate on the decision , the school 's provost , Connie Sjoberg , said only that federal law `` prohibits us from confirming if an individual is or has been a student at our institution . ''

Sjoberg added , `` We therefore can not comment on your specific request . ''

Did Minard sign the school 's morality covenant ? Yes , she concedes . But she still thinks her expulsion is unfair . Plenty of other students violate the contract in one way or another without being expelled , she says . Minard thinks she is singled out because she 's a lesbian .

In addition to the emotional sting , the 22-year-old says she is now stuck personally -- not knowing what to do , or where to go next .

`` I 'm trying to figure out how and where I can graduate , '' she told CNN , noting that she 'll have to start paying off her loans at the end of next year unless things change . '' ... It 's going to be hard to get into classes that may be full , because they gave me very little notice before the fall semester starts . ''

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Located in the metropolitan Oklahoma City community of Bethany , Southwestern Christian University 's website states the school 's three core values are scholarship , service and spirit . The latter value includes `` building a Christ-centered community , '' `` honoring our Pentecostal Holiness heritage '' and `` respecting diversity and various Christian backgrounds . ''

Minard came to the school on scholarship for basketball , though her playing career was cut short after doctors told her -- after she 'd suffered multiple concussions -- that she should avoid sports with physical contact .

`` I stayed on without a scholarship , '' Minard said , `` because I was so invested in the university and knew that some credits would n't transfer to other schools . ''

Meanwhile , her life was changing in other ways as well .

About 3Â 1/2 years ago , she met her future spouse , Kadyn Park . They started out as friends , and romance blossomed over time . `` We eventually fell in love and decided to get married , '' Minard said .

The couple wed March 17 in Albuquerque , New Mexico -- a state where same-sex marriage is legal .

She had planned to become a strength and conditioning coach . `` Once I graduated , '' Minard said , `` I was willing to go wherever life took me . ''

Her educational and professional path , though , is now far from clear .

Yet Minard feels that she 's in the right place in her own spiritual journey .

Having grown up in the Lutheran Church , Minard notes that she `` at first ... struggled '' with the idea that her faith was at odds with her sexuality .

`` I had questions , but I worked through those questions , '' she said . `` And now I have a strong faith in God . And I believe you can still have faith in God and live a gay lifestyle . ''

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Woman went to Southwestern Christian University on a sports scholarship

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Letter : An official says Minard 's marriage to another woman violates school policy

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Minard admits signing a morality pact , but thinks she 's singled out for being lesbian

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She says you can `` have faith in God and live a gay lifestyle ''